It is called British Imperialism and you are exactly right. Have you been to UAE? It is like a British/American state right in the middle of the middle east. How would Americans react if an Arab state came and said we are taking over New York, you all have to change your system of govt and by the way only Muslims go to heaven? Would their be any amount of force on earth that would get you to love that Arab state? NOPE.. you would fight until everyone was dead.
Why do you expect people in the middle east to act differently when you would act the same way in their shoes?
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